Ohh I do love a treehouse wedding! There is something so unique and special about them with a magical playful atmosphere.
WWW readers Holly and Ben are with us to share their treehouse wedding today held at the Countryside Education Trust in Hampshire on the 5th October 2019. There is so much I love about their day; the wellies dress code, the dried flowers and the quirky yet personal table centrepieces to name a few.
They love the outdoors and so a wedding in the woods was perfect for them as a family. They also wanted to include things from their home and named their wedding tables after quotes from TV programmes and films. The autumn vibes were gorgeous, look out for mushrooms, camp fires and fairy lights. I also have to say just how much I love Holly’s pink dress (which was a total bargain by the way!) and Ben’s brown suit teamed with hand painted wellies. Such a cute touch. They both looked amazing.
These utterly beautiful light drenched images are by Honeydew Moments and I am so thankful to be sharing them today.
On the 6th of October 2018, we went on a family camping holiday. Ben carried the ring around all day waiting for the right moment and then proposed very late at night in the freezing pitch black next to the campfire. It was very romantic, memorable and cute, he did a great job. He had brought a bottle of fizz and had hid it in the boot with some picnic flutes.
My mum is a jeweller and Ben took his grandma’s original engagement ring to her, and she put the diamonds on a new, silver band and incorporated the gold from the ring into the wedding rings that she made us – which we designed with her to include moonstones and crosses to symbolise stars. So the engagement ring (and wedding rings) is very special and meaningful to us both.
We knew from the beginning we wanted it to be a big celebration, a party and very reflective of us as a couple and as people. We decided very early on to use things from around our house as centrepieces and to name the tables after quotes from shows and films we’ve enjoyed together. We wanted the theme to be ‘autumn’, so we had autumn colours, but also there were quite a lot of references to mushrooms, and roses. Because pink roses are romantic and we weren’t going to be limited by our theme! We also decided that because it was a muddy place and because it would just be fun, to ask our guests to wear wellies, which added to the relaxed and fun vibe.
The Planning Process
We were awful at planning. Really. I’m surprised we managed to cobble anything together but somehow it all came together perfectly in the end. We had a notebook that we threw ideas into and then haphazardly booked things here and there. We did have Ben’s Mum to check up on our progress and nudge us into action (much to her exasperation!). We hadn’t realised there was quite so much to consider so when we got engaged and decided to marry only one year later we didn’t know what we were really signing up for – especially because we conceived our third child a couple of months into planning which threw a spanner into the works! But in the end it all looked effortless, I think.
A week after we got engaged, we viewed the treehouses at the Countryside Education Trust in Beaulieu and we just thought it was perfect and didn’t view anywhere else! We are very outdoorsy people and love the woods and getting out and about so to be in the woods for our wedding was ideal for us. They also had a date of exactly one year after we got engaged which we loved, we thought it fit perfectly.
Your Outfits & Accessories
We decided that the clothes were the thing we were going to save our money on. We felt like a lot of our wedding was excessive so we decided to look to TK Maxx for our wedding clothes! In the end though I bought my dress from ASOS from a label called Sisters Of The Tribe. It was less than £100. I knew I wanted something pink – for no real reason other than I just like pink! – and something kind of boho to suit my personality and style. For accessories I wore a dried flower crown (again, ‘boho’, very me), that matched Ben’s buttonhole and my bouquet. I also wore my Grandma’s bracelet, who passed away in my teens, as my something blue as it has a blue jewel in it, and my ‘something old’ was a ring I put on the bracelet, that my Auntie lent me (so also something borrowed!). I got married in some lovely sparkly rainbow wellies from Amazon. Once we’d decided to ask everyone to wear wellies to the wedding I knew I wanted sparkly rainbow ones, and my little girl also got some the same which was lovely.
Ben wore a nice brown suit from TK Maxx, it was one of the first purchases we made. For his shirt, also from TK Maxx, we chose a quirky bug print with little colourful beetles all over it. His shoes were green wellies from B&Q which the children painted a few days before – we did this because we couldn’t find any funky mens wellies, but it was adorable in the end! His tie was from a charity shop that we liked the look of.
After a disastrous cut and dye job from a hairdresser who came to our home the week before the wedding – which left me in tears and so sure my wedding hair was going to be ruined – I spent the entire rest of the week before the big day bleaching and toning my hair to get it as white as possible and I’m so glad it worked. I wanted it curly, I think of blonde curly hair as ‘princess’ hair and I wanted to feel like one! I was so happy with how it came out in the end. My sister is a MUA and she did my makeup as my wedding present, I wanted lots of heavy makeup just to feel as beautiful as possible and she did such a lovely job.
Ben did his own hair in the morning and had a hair cut the week before. Nothing too special.
The Readings & Music
Our readings were an excerpt from Philip Pulman’s ‘His Dark Materials’, because we both loved that series and I read it because Ben told me to, and the other reading was a poem written by my bridesmaid Lucy! She wrote it on very short notice and it was truly beautiful and an amazing gift. I was played in by my now Brother in Law Mark, a piece of music he wrote himself for the occasion. We walked out to ‘Is this love?’ by Bob Marley, just because it’s such a happy little romantic tune! For our first dance Ben’s brother and sister Claire performed ‘Only Love’ by Ben Howard and it was a wonderland unforgettable moment for us. We cried a lot!
Natasha from Honeydew Moments was literally the first wedding related investment we made, because I’m a photographer too and I had seen her work in a photography group a few months before and knew straight away that once Ben got round to proposing we would be booking with her! I trusted her to capture our day and especially I wanted romantic couples photos – because we were all dressed up and loved up and I wanted to know I could frame it and keep it on our wall forever – and she did just that! We also had a second photographer, Sophie, who captured the children getting ready with their Nana which was amazing to be able to see afterwards. There are a lot of details you aren’t there for at your own wedding – for example my daughter Morgan was at the front of the procession going down the aisle, and I was at the back, so I didn’t get to see her throwing her petals but thanks to the photography I have a wonderful photo of her little face when she saw her Daddy and threw the petals which is so precious to be able to see.
We chose dried flowers for the buttonholes and bouquets, I liked that they looked a bit different and I was absolutely in love with my bouquet. I don’t think I put it down for more than five minutes all day.
I gave the bridesmaids a green swatch and told them to buy whatever they wanted in the right colour. I wanted everyone to feel like they were looking good so I wanted them to be able to choose what cut and style of dress they wore.
The Details & Décor
Most of the decor was bunting made by Karen my MIL, fairy lights, and fake flowers and autumn leaves. We hired mix and match colourful chairs and they made the room look AMAZING. We almost didn’t need anything else in there thanks to the chairs! We used items from our home for our centrepieces, one of my favourites was an R2D2 toy. Ben’s friend Fi’s mum knitted us some mushroom bunting which we hung behind the cake which was super cute and we now have kept for our Christmas tree and it looked very sweet on there! We had rustic details around the venue like jars (which Ben was saving and cleaning for the year leading up to the day) filled with fairy lights, and a pallet with our initials on.
We bought three different cakes from Hannah Banana Bakery, she has sadly closed down since the wedding but everyone adored the cakes so much. They were all vegan and absolutely delicious… or so we are told! One of my biggest regrets about the wedding day (I don’t really have many) is that we didn’t bring a tub to take some of our cake home with us. We didn’t actually eat any of our three different flavoured wedding cakes that we had been daydreaming about for months! We ate late because we were having our photos taken so when it was time to eat cake we were full and then in the chaos of leaving the wedding with our three kids in the rain we didn’t tell anyone to save us any cake and the remaining cake was thrown away in the morning, so upsetting! But at least all the guests who ate it said it was amazing. We are going to order ourselves a crazy fancy cake for our first anniversary.
We were meant to be going to Bath for a romantic weekend away in April. We have thought about it though and once the virus passes, we are going to do something much more excessive instead, maybe even a cruise because we’re going to deserve a big break after lockdown with three kids!
The whole day was! But a few that stand out:
- Eating pizza together straight after the ceremony.
- Our first dance.
- Changing our baby’s bum together in the evening, as it was the longest quietest moment we had together all day.
- Photos in the meadow – we both found our couples portraits to be a lovely romantic experience.
Advice For Other Couples
Trust the suppliers when they tell you what time they should arrive at bridal prep! I asked my hairdresser to come an hour later than she wanted to come.. well guess who was 40 minutes late down the aisle??
Make sure you get to eat the food you bought, or at least have some saved for the next day.
Bring snacks, we had cold Papa Johns right after the ceremony.
Don’t worry too much about the family politics, on the day you will forget most if it and people tend to rise to the occasion!
Also don’t let one or two people’s negativity bring you down – we had a comment from one person about our vegan menu that really put me on edge about how everyone would be on the day, but when it came down to it the people who came were our friends and didn’t make a deal about it at all.
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Sophie Jane Photography and Film
Hair & Nails
Dolly’s Beauty Parlour
The Artisan Dried Flower Co
Wow what a party! Have you thought about having a treehouse wedding? We have more real weddings in our archives you can check out too.
Holly and Ben, thank you so much for sharing your wonderful wedding with us and happy anniversary for Monday xo Lou