The Barns East Yorkshire Wedding
I used the WWW Instagram page and blog for ideas throughout planning our wedding day. I really enjoyed reading about other real weddings, in particular DIY ones, as we were able to take a lot of inspiration for our own day. I also regularly visited the WWW pinterest boards especially when looking for dress ideas as this is something I had struggled with.
Hayley and Nick
Welcome to the East Yorkshire Barns wedding of WWW readers Hayley and Nick, who were hitched on the 28th September 2019 in beautiful Yorkshire. Their day was a perfect combination of DIY, rustic vibes and a lot of love.
I do love a barn wedding and their day totally confirms to me why; magical charm, cosy atmosphere and countryside surroundings. Their wedding day style really rocked, with a pale grey colour palette, greenery in abundance, personal decorations and pretty lighting. Hayley and Nick both looked stunning in their chosen outfits, plus I just adore their cake and stationery, so stylish!
Bloom Weddings were on hand to capture the whole affair with their wonderful photos and film, thanks for sharing guys.
The proposal was everything I had every hoped for! Neither I nor Nick are flashy or fussy people and I am very easily embarrassed so thankfully Nick went against a public proposal. We were about to take a trip to Somerset to visit Nick’s parents for a week and we planned to walk our dogs before the long journey. We took our favourite walk at Allerthorpe Woods however before this I was very adamant about getting a coffee… something which Nick thought was totally not necessary and now I understand why as he didn’t have a free hand (sorry Nick!). In my defence it was very early. There is a little cutaway path we love to take on our walk. It is full of trees and if you get there early enough in the summer months the light bounces around and it is such a beautiful sight. Nick nervously encouraged me to put my coffee down on a tree stump. He took my hands, the light was beautiful at this point, and he spoke about our relationship and how much I meant to him. He then bent to one knee and asked me to be his wife. Despite previously speaking about “when we get married” I was still shocked and so overwhelmed. I immediately said yes and he had to quickly stand as our dogs thought this was a new game of jump on Dad! It was just perfect, me, him, our beloved dogs, in our favourite place. He placed a beautiful sapphire ring on my finger and we continued our walk hand in hand, beaming at one another. We were both so giddy and eager to celebrate… we just had a short 6 hour trip to Somerset before we could haha!
We both agreed that we wanted a relaxed day which was about having fun, celebrating our marriage, with our favourite people. We knew that we did not want to be in a super formal setting. It’s not that we didn’t like those settings they just never truly felt like “us”. Almost straightaway we agreed that a barn venue would be perfect for us to help reflect our vision. When discussing our look for the day we knew that we wanted handmade elements which our family could help with so everyone felt involved. We don’t live locally to either of our families so having their involvement in the build-up felt very special. We chose to stick to a classic colour scheme to compliment the setting as we knew that we wanted to look back on our images and them feel timeless rather than “on trend”. From the off we knew we would have a large amount of guests but we still wanted to the day to feel intimate so we decided that candle light would be very important for the day and we also had the idea of having a feasting type meal which was shared among the tables rather than a served 3 course dinner to add atmosphere. I would have described our overall vision as a classic wedding party, in a rustic setting, with an intimate and relaxed atmosphere.
Part of our vision was that it wasn’t just about the wedding day itself we made a weekend of it. We always wanted this to be a full celebration involving as many of our friends and family as we could.
We were married and had our celebration at The Barns, East Yorkshire. It was quite honestly, our perfect setting. The barns themselves are beautiful and they are surrounded by the most picturesque fields. We plan to take a long walk around the area with our dogs on our anniversary. There is also a shepherds hut and new accommodation on site which we might book for our anniversary too. Kate and Ed who run The Barns, were nothing short of amazing. No question was silly and they were so helpful during the planning and over the weekend itself. They were so approachable, warm, and friendly that we were both sad to say goodbye to them after it was all over.
Thankfully a previous colleague of mine is a make-up artist and prior to us planning our wedding had set up her own business (Ashleigh’s Artistry) this made my decision easy. Make up is a very personal thing so it was so lovely to have someone who not only I trusted but was a friend, it made the wedding morning feel even more special. Both myself and my bridesmaids all went for a natural, dewy, bright look. I had a subtle, smoky eye, and wore my favourite lipstick shade. I felt like the best version of myself which is exactly how I described my “bridal look” to Ashleigh. I wore an “undone” up do for our day. I knew I wanted my hair up due to the detailing of the dress but I still wanted something soft and relaxed looking. I had the wonderful hairdressers from Sarah J’s hairdressing Pocklington to style my hair, my bridesmaids, and my Mum. It was so lovely being together, having a glass of fizz, and taking everything in. I wore Jo Malone perfume and had done a scent your day session with my Sister prior to the big day. This was such a lovely experience as it was completely personal. I went with Poppy & Barley and Peony Blush Suede. Nick even bought me a Peony Blush Suede candle as a wedding gift which whenever I light takes me back to our special day.
Your Outfits & Accessories
My wedding dress was nothing like I had imagined! I really surprised myself with my eventual choice as I had always imagined myself in a flowing, loose, boho style gown but I ended up with quite the opposite. I bought my dress from the amazing Chloe Jane Bridalwear. It is a wonderful boutique in Howden, Yorkshire that I had discovered on Instagram. I picked my dress with just my maid of honour and I am so glad I did as I felt too overwhelmed as it was. There is so much choice and it can be so easy to get carried away and walk away with something that just isn’t “you”. I had tried some gowns on elsewhere and came away feeling deflated as nothing seemed right for me. This is where Chloe and Emily (from CJB) were amazing as they really did make me feel so much more comfortable and confident. Eventually I fell in love with a Zavana Bridal gown. It was a lace, fitted, illusion back gown, with a daring cut down the front.
My dress was very detailed so I didn’t go over the top with accessories. I wore some earrings from Emilia Rae Bridal – they really complimented the detail and design of my gown. I had a simple, plain, cathedral length silk veil from Britten Weddings. I absolutely loved my veil and have always wanted to wear one however as I was about to walk down the aisle it flew off!! For shoes I wore a pair of Charlotte Mills – they were amazing and so comfortable!! I loved the detailing and special touches within the shoes, including a silver sixpence. In the evening I wore my trusted faux leather jacket which I had decorated myself – it was much easier to do than I first imagined.
Nick wore a John Lewis navy two piece suit. Nick had actually seen the suit shortly after we got engaged but we decided to wait until closer to the time. Over the festive period the suit hit the sale… cue a lot of frantic calling to the groomsmen to get their sizes before stock ran out! Once Nick had the suit it was clear that something was missing and he wanted a waistcoat, we searched high and low for something that matched the suit with no real winner. Then while shopping for his shoes (tan leather brogues from the Next Italian line) he stumbled across the perfect colour match! Nick chose a silver floral tie which again was from John Lewis, he actually chose this without seeing the bridesmaid dresses and the match was perfect. Nick finished his ensemble with a personalised tie clip, and English oak and hazelnut cologne from Jo Malone. This is the scent I get him every Christmas so that was a lovely touch.
Nick had 2 best men and a master of ceremony. The day would honestly not have run as smoothly as it did if it was not for their help! The boys wore suits and ties which matched Nick’s and instead of a waistcoat they all wore navy braces. Nick gifted the boys with a personalised tie clip, some Tom Ford cologne, a bottle of booze and some Paul Smith socks. Again we packaged these in boxes and I added monograms of the boys initials. Some of my favourite photos of our special day is the boys getting ready together, all looking a bit giddy and nervous!
We did also have a wonderfully cute ring bearer on the day, our godson. He wore a short and braces combo to match the big boys and he looked adorable. He completely stole the show pulling the rings away from Nick, again this is one of my favourite photos and it definitely made Nick and I giggle and feel at ease during the ceremony.
Our bridesmaids were wonderful. I had 4 in total, 3 of my dearest friends, and my younger Sister. The wedding planning would not have been the same without them. They were just as invested and excited as I was and they were always on hand whenever possible. They also threw me the most amazing FestiHen which I can never thank them enough for. My best girls wore beautiful, pale grey gowns, from TH&TH. The colour was silver mist, it was the most gorgeous shade and really complimentary on all of their skin tones. The dresses were romantic, floaty and apparently very comfortable. They all wore their hair in a half up, half down design with a hair vine from accessorise which I managed to get in the January sales! I asked the girls to wear shoes they already had and that they were comfortable in, the gowns were long so it really didn’t matter. As a way of thanking the girls for their support I put together a gift box for them all which I decorated myself with their names. Each of them had an individual design of Pandora earrings which I thought reflected their style, an engraved necklace from Bloom Boutique, a Jo Malone perfume, a Katie Loxton clutch bag, and a gorgeous card made by Iris Illustrations. I’d asked the girls not to wear perfume or accessories until we were just about to leave… they were very confused by this but the penny dropped when they got their gifts haha! The cards were my favourite part of their gift boxes, I had the print designed before the big day sending photos of the girls, their dresses, and all the accessories. I think it caught all the girls by surprise and there were a lot of happy tears.
The Readings & Music
I have always had an emotional connection to music and I knew that it would be a very important part of our day. We decided that because we were at the venue for the full day we wanted a different atmosphere from the start of the day into the evening so we hired a string quartet for the ceremony and drinks reception. I walked down the aisle to Bittersweet Symphony by The Verve; it is such a special song to me as my Dad really introduced me to music and shaped what I still listen to now. It really took me back to childhood memories and it felt very emotional for both me and my Dad. We had two Oasis tracks played whilst we signed the register, “Champagne Supernova” and “Whatever”. The songs are instantly recognisable and they really added to the celebratory atmosphere in the barn at that time. We walked back through the barn as Mr and Mrs to The Beatles “Here Comes the Sun”. We love how light and happy this song is and I can just remember smiling at everyone when the strings started. The sun had actually appeared at this point so felt very apt and it is one of my Grandfather’s, who couldn’t be there, favourite songs so it was a lovely nod to him too.
The string quartet continued during our drinks and canape reception playing a mix of modern and traditional pieces. We actually missed most of the music from them as we were having our photos taken. Our guests did say how lovely it was and that it really created a wonderful atmosphere after the ceremony.
During our meal I played a Spotify playlist as this was easy to organise beforehand and it was cost effective! We also used Spotify for our entry music to the dining barn. We walked/danced in to Kings of Leon “The Bucket”. Not a traditional choice but one of our favourite songs to dance around the kitchen to at home so it only felt right to feature it during our wedding day.
We had an amazing 3 piece live band, Four Shadows Theatre Company, for the evening. We actually met them at our best friend’s wedding a few years beforehand and always said we would book them for our own. Our first dance was a beautiful version of “On Call” by Kings of Leon. It was such a gorgeous interpretation of the original song and it felt so romantic. Two of my bridesmaids popped confetti cannons at the perfect time of the song and the dancefloor started to fill. I can honestly say the dancefloor was never empty! The band were amazing, they created such an amazing party atmosphere, and everyone raved about them for weeks after.
We chose two readings for the ceremony. They were read by two of my bridesmaids and they did such a brilliant job. One read an extract from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis De Bernieres. Our other bridesmaid read Love is Friendship Caught Fire by Laura Hendricks.
We printed the readings within our order of service and we have a few spare copies. We plan to frame the readings and have these within a gallery wall of wedding memories at home.
We had the amazing Wild Floral Couture do our wedding flowers. I had been following Ali for a long time on Instagram and when we met it was just the perfect fit. Despite loving flowers I was really relaxed about this and really just let Ali do her thing. I explained that I wanted greens and whites only and I didn’t want anything to look to “wedding-y”. My bouquet was perfect, wild, full, and undone. The groomsmen wore complimenting buttonholes and the bridesmaids carried a small but wild bouquet of foliage. Using foliage A) keeps costs down and B) looks really beautiful and fitting for a barn setting. As we had a sharing feast for a meal we needed the tables to be relatively clear but I still wanted to use flowers for décor. Ali put together some simple posies in small vases, this was teamed with a chiffon runner from Born Boho, and plenty of candle light to create the perfect atmosphere. For our ceremony we had a partial arch of flowers which framed everything perfectly. We also had two milk churns filled with arrangements next to some of the signs my Dad had made for the day. Ali kindly turned these arrangements into bouquets the next day for us to gift to our parents. In fact Ali and the team put all of the leftover flowers into bouquets for us and we were able to gift some of our guests with them the next day when tidying up. This was such a lovely touch.
The Details & Décor
When planning how we wanted the day to look and feel we decided that we really wanted to use the natural, rustic features that were already present at the barns. The exposed brick and iron cladding really didn’t need much “tarting up”. We kept things simple and used foliage, candles, and soft grey runners in the feasting barn. Most of our candle holders were bought from IKEA and Hobbycraft and then I rented some tall brass candlesticks from Emily K Weddings who was so wonderful to work with. We rented the table runners from Born Boho who did an amazing job in sourcing the perfect soft grey. The feasting barn really did look beautiful with all of the candle light it made the atmosphere so welcoming and intimate despite having around 100 guests. For place names I wanted simple calligraphy squares with some ribbon and gold featured however these turned out to be quite expensive so I took to doing this myself simply using a calligraphy font printed on hammered white card, I then glued on some gold detailing and tied them all with a grey velvet ribbon. For someone who isn’t very crafty I was very pleased with the overall finish of them.
In the ceremony barn we kept things simple as the brickwork in there was so beautiful. Ali from Wild Floral Couture installed a growing “undone” arch and we rented some glass candle holders and a registry table runner again from Emily K Weddings just to soften the room. The day before my Mum, Grandma, and I set about tying ribbons with some flowers (from wild floral couture) at the “pew ends”. We also had an order of service on every other chair, I had made these myself alongside the rest of our stationery for which I used the same font and images so that everything was tied together.
Finally we had a lot of signage throughout the barns. My Dad worked so hard on making signs, easels, arrows and posts. I then added text to them all, making my own stencils, and using posca pens. They were so effective and a real stand out feature. We are now keeping the arrows from one of the signs which had directions for the day (ceremony, dancing etc) to put on our hallway gallery wall with our wedding photos.
I really do wish we had frozen some of our cake as it was delicious and we did not eat enough of it! Charlotte from Rebel Cakes made our gorgeous 3 tier wedding cake. She really understood exactly what we wanted and created a beautiful semi naked cake, with gold leaf detail, and finished with fresh flowers. We had a different flavour on each tier; my favourite was the spiced carrot, while Nick’s was salted caramel. We had the cake as a stand out point of our dessert table and this way it meant a lot of cake actually got eaten. Guests were able to graze on our dessert table for a couple of hours, we found that this worked really well and guests really enjoyed this.
Your Photographer & Filmmaker
Prior to booking anything else we had both agreed that we wanted Bloom Weddings to shoot our day. We were so excited that they were available for our wedding and quite honestly I think we would have moved the date if they weren’t! We met Chris and Anii over Facetime and they were so friendly and helpful. Nothing was too big of an ask and they gave us so many helpful pointers. We had a pre wedding shoot as part of the package we booked and honestly I could not recommend this enough. Firstly it’s very rare to have some special photos of yourself and your significant other and now we have tonnes but also it was so nice to properly meet Chris and Anii and discuss our day with them. Both Nick and I are relatively camera shy so having the pre wedding shoot helped us understand that there really is nothing to worry about! On the day both Chris and Anii were amazing at keeping things organised, keeping people calm, and also getting the group shots (you know the ones your parents want) over and done with efficiently! We love their relaxed approach, it was like having two extra friends present, and they really just captured the heart and soul of the day. They also shot our wedding film. We did not have the budget for a separate videographer and we also didn’t want a long wedding film, just something to look back on which capture the feeling and emotion of the day. Chris and Anii did just that. Every single person who has watched our wedding video has commented on how perfectly it has captured the build-up, the love, the friendships, and the party atmosphere. I am yet to watch it without crying as it just brings everything back so vividly.
We didn’t have the budget for a “blow out” honeymoon so instead we returned to our favourite country, Italy. We stayed in Milan for 4 nights and it was so perfect. We had been to Milan before with friends so this time we took a much slower pace taking in the sites, celebrating with wonderful food, and of course having an Aperol spritz or two. We had started to make plans to go to South Africa in 2020 using money which was kindly given to us by our wedding guests. However in early 2020 we were very lucky to find out our family is expanding and baby Thompson will be arriving in autumn this year (quite possibly on our first anniversary). Safe to say South Africa won’t be happening for a while!
The whole day really does go in a blur. I remember having a moment to myself in the morning while writing my bridesmaids cards and trying to just take in the busy-ness which was happening around me.
My Nan and Grandad could not make the wedding day itself so my Dad had arranged for my Grandad to facetime me just before leaving which was so sweet and a memory I will treasure.
My veil blowing off just as I was about to walk down the aisle has to be one of the biggest memorable moments! In ways it was a blessing as it really calmed any nerves I had and my Dad and I just had a giggle and shook it off. I wore my veil the next day while tidying the barn to make up for it!
Our godson was our ring bearer at the ceremony and although he had practised handing over the ring box he decided to be cheeky and move it backward and forward before handing it to Nick which was so hilarious and sweet! I can’t wait to tell him all about our wedding when he is older and what a great job he did.
Just hearing “Mr and Mrs Thompson” for the first time is something that will always stick with me as Nick and I knowingly looked at each other as if to say we did it finally!
As the night went on it is safe to say everyone was in the party mood. I walked on to the dancefloor at one point and there was at least 10 shirtless men and Nick and I were being lifted up in the air! I still have no idea why this started but it always happens with rugby boys… maybe one day I’ll understand it.
Advice For Other Couples
During planning enjoy all the little moments; we tried to make a celebration out of all the jobs when they were ticked off. Easier said than done, but don’t let the planning becoming EVERYTHING, it is often beneficial to have some time away from the planning process.
If you intend to have DIY elements, plan them out, and schedule more time than you think you will need!
Remember it is your special day. If you want to have a BBQ as your meal – do it. If you don’t want a traditional seating plan – don’t. Again, this is easier said than done, but try not to let other people’s wants or expectations dictate the way you plan and spend your day. People’s opinions and advice always comes from a good place, and support is so helpful and meaningful, however it really is your special day as a couple – no one else’s.
The day really will fly by so whenever possible hold hands, dance together and don’t be torn away from each other! It is your special day, guests will come to you!
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Photography & Film
East Yorkshire Barns
Wild Floral Couture
Yorkshire Vehicle Hire
Chloe Jane Bridalwear
So happy to have had the pleasure of sharing this awesome wedding day.
Hayley and Nick thank you so very much for sharing your wedding story with us xo Lou