By Louise Baltruschat Hollis
How lovely that you are wishing to thank your wedding guests, parents, family, friends and wedding party with a wedding thank you card. It’s really great etiquette and very polite to write wedding thank you messages after the big day.
This guide with take you step-by-step through when to send wedding thank you notes and how to manage the logistics of sending thank you cards to wedding thank you card word templates and beautiful wedding cards to buy.
Plus, I have a free spreadsheet, to help you organise those all-important wedding thank yous! Hoorah. Yes, I have you covered today.
Hopefully, your wedding bouquet is drying, your wedding photos have arrived and you have a post-honeymoon glow.
It means it’s time to send your wedding cards. I know what you are thinking? You just aren’t sure you have the time or headspace to buy, write and post-wedding thank yous. But I am here to the rescue with my easy breezy wedding thank you wording formula.
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Saying thank you will lift your spirits post-wedding, while politely giving thanks to your guests and wedding suppliers.
People like validation that you are happy with the gifts you gave them, be it a physical gift, contribution, money, attendance, service (suppliers) or their time.
A small gesture such as a wedding thank you note, really goes a long way. It’s thoughtful and considerate.
Time is of the essence when it comes to sending thank you notes. It’s a good idea to send out thank-yous within 2-3 months of your wedding day.
That being said, if you have left it longer there is no need to fret. A late thank you letter is better than no thank you letter. So if you are still within a year of your wedding, do send out a thank you card.
After a year of being married, it may be best to tread carefully and think through if it’s still appropriate for you to send a wedding thank you. If it’s important to you do it as it will still be appreciated.
It may be appropriate to send a thank you later in certain circumstances. For instance, you have a honeymoon gift fund and would like to send your message, after the honeymoon. That way you can share your experience and joy in using your gift.
It’s really up to you who to send thank you messages to post-wedding. It’s a good idea to send thank yous out to your whole guest list for attending, especially if guests had to make special arrangements, travel, stay over and dress up for the occasion. Not just those that bought you a wedding gift.
It’s also important to thank those who helped you plan your day beforehand, helped on the day or immediately afterwards.
Don’t forget about your wedding suppliers! Even if you don’t wish to send a special note, do consider leaving them a review if they did a great job at your wedding. Wedding suppliers cherish positive feedback. It not only helps their business going forward too, but it helps other couples who are looking for amazing suppliers.
So how to say the perfect wedding thank you? Do you go paper or paperless? Let’s dive in.
Traditionally wedding thank yous are sent or given out in card form through the post or delivered by hand.
You can buy or DIY your own wedding cards. Alternatively, think about asking your wedding stationery designer to whizz some up for you. Your wedding photographer may have options too for wedding thank you photo cards using your favourite wedding portraits.
If you are short on finances post-wedding, then double up and pop thank you messages in birthday or Christmas cards. Or try using postcards as a budget note sending option.
For a modern and perhaps easier option, you can send thank you messages digitally. You may wish to send a digital thank you note due to budget constraints, lack of time or your carbon footprint.
It is nicer to send a physical thank you card, however, a digital thank you is better than no thank you at all. But be thoughtful about how you send them.
Adding a personalised graphic or photo is one way, and a personal message rather than a generic copy/paste note is best. Be sure to message recipients individually rather than in groups.
If cards just aren’t you, why not invite them over for a thank-you meal, send a balloon or give them flowers picked from your garden?
Yes, organising your wedding thank you notes does start on the day itself! That’s if you open any of your wedding cards or gifts.
Whenever you chose to open your wedding cards and gifts, open up a wedding spreadsheet, notes app or grab a pen and paper.
You can snag my free wedding thank you card writing spreadsheet to help!
Why? So that as you open up your wedding gifts, you can record who they are from! Then you won’t get muddled or forget who gifted what. You could even take images of the gifts and add notes that way if you prefer.
Another tip is to immediately after your wedding start to make notes of any special memories or contributions from guests or suppliers. You can then incorporate these into your wedding thank you wording to ensure your message is really bespoke.
Now you have opened all your cards and gifts and noted down who gifted what, as well as other special memories or donations. It is time to think about sourcing your wedding cards, photos, wording and graphics. Think about keeping them on brand to your wedding styling for a really coherent and consistant look.
Try to give yourself a deadline in your calendar to prompt you to do this. Within the first month of getting married or coming back from your honeymoon is ideal.
If you are posting your wedding thank you notes, ensure you purchase stamps and find the addresses of your guests. Hopefully, though, you have these from when you sent out your wedding invitations.
It’s also a nice idea to buy or find a special pen to write your paper messages. Writing with a decent pen not only feels nicer and makes writing easier, but the result will look more polished and your handwriting will glide and flow.
You have your wedding thank you supplies and your notes, so you’re now fully prepared and ready to prepare your wedding thank you wording!
It’s a great idea to have an idea of what you’re going to write before you sit down to write your messages. It helps to avoid writer’s block and procrastination. But it also means you can have others’ help in writing your messages if you so wish.
You can use the wedding thank you wording templates below to start you off.
It’s time to start writing! Fire up your spreadsheet or list and arrange all your supplies and writing. Block out some time together as a couple (candle and playlist optional) and sit down to write.
You don’t have to do all the writing in one go, take your time and break up your card writing list into sections. For example, you could write for half an hour each evening to make it a more manageable task.
It may be nice to write them somewhere other than the kitchen table to make for a more enjoyable experience. Head outside, and sit in a cosy pub or cute cafe to do the task at hand.
Be sure to include all your guests’ names in the thank you note. For example, if sending to a family, ensure all their names including the children are mentioned. Especially if they included their names in your wedding card. Don’t just include your bridesmaid’s name for example but not their plus one.
It is good etiquette to send all your wedding thank you notes out at the same time. That way loved ones don’t get them at different times, wondering if they will be getting one too.
Simply save up all the handwritten thank-yous and post in one go.
If you are going digital, create digital drafts and send them out as close as possible. Some email providers allow email scheduling which may be a good option for you. Just be prepared for multiple incoming messages if sending via text message in one go.
Photo: With Love Rose Photography via Boho Fairytale Wedding
So without further ado, take a look at these wedding words you can copy and paste, then tweak to create your perfect thank you message!
Wedding Gift Thank You Card Wording
We are delighted you came to our wedding, we had such a wonderful time celebrating with you. Thank you so much for your kind gift of X, we have already used it and adore it. I am sure we'll use X lots over the coming years.
We hope you enjoyed our day as much as we did and we hope to see you soon.
Much Love X and Y
Money Gift Wedding Card Wording
It was wonderful to celebrate our wedding with you, we are so honoured you chose to join us on our special day.
We just wanted thank you for your very generous gift we will be using it towards X, which we are very excited about. We will be sure to share all about it with you really soon.
We're looking forward to seeing you soon.
Lots of love X and Y
Non-Attendance Wedding Gift Thank You
We are really sorry you couldn't be there to share our wedding celebrations with us, we really missed your presence on the day.
We are just writing to thank you so much for your kind wedding gift, we are so grateful for the X. We're planning to use X soon and look forward to doing so.
We hope to see you soon.
Best wishes, X and Y
Contribution Wedding Gift Thank You
We hope you had a lovely time at our wedding, thank you for being there with us, we had the most amazing time celebrating with you.
Our day wouldn't have been the same without you, thanks so much for doing X for our day. It really means a lot to us that you helped create our dream day. Everyone loved X.
Thank you again and we can't wait to catch up soon.
Lots of love, X and Y
Wedding Supplier Thank You
We are over the moon with X you did for us. We can't thank you enough for being such a large part of our day and making it our best day ever.
We will remember X forever and treasure our wedding day memories. We will be sure to recommend you to other couples in the future.
We hope you enjoyed being a part of our wedding, as much as we enjoyed having you along for the ride.
Best wishes, X and Y
Wedding Attendance Thank You
We just wanted to write to you to thank you so much for being a part of our special day. We loved your presence on our wedding day and hope you enjoyed the X.
We really appreciate the effort you made to travel/stay/dress up (delete where appropriate) to be there. We will treasure our memories with you.
Lots of love, X and Y
Wedding Party Thank You
Having you by our side on our most special day was an absolute honour. We can't thank you enough for being such an important part of our wedding.
Thank you for all you did (add a personal note) on the lead-up and the day itself. We couldn't have done it without you, we're ever so grateful.
Thank you again and we can't wait until the next celebration with you.
Much love, X and Y
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And that's a wrap. We've covered, who to send wedding card thank you notes to and when to send wedding thank you messages.
As well as top tips on how to organise sending your wedding thank yous. You also snagged a free wedding thank you card spreadsheet and some wording examples to use for your own special messages.
Finally, you have some really cute thank you cards to buy to write those all important thank you words.
With any luck you are now fully equipped to plan, write and send your wedding thank yous! Hooray!
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