We’re thrilled to be sharing the colourful, beautiful and floral wedding day of WWW readers Carmen and Hari today. They held their stunning nuptials at Irnham Hall in Lincolnshire on the 1st June 2018 on what was a gorgeous summers day. They were married in an outdoor ceremony in the picturesque gardens, surrounded by their loved ones, complete with a Sri Lankan dance troop and a Bagpiper. It was the perfect way to incorporate their backgrounds, along with their food choices and when you read all about the menu I can guarantee it will leave you feeling pretty hungry! It sounded amazing.
The pair really wanted to focus on creating a fun atmosphere and there were plenty of fun and games to keep everyone entertained. Think bouncy castle, a game show, garden games and a ball pit to name a few. I have to say that their photographer Lucie Watson Photography captured all of those moments so brilliantly (thank you for sharing Lucie), along with those meadow portraits of the lovely couple. So beautiful.
I just have to rave about Carmen’s show stopping floral wedding dress, wasn’t it just beautiful? I think it looked incredible teamed with her Irregular Choice shoes, a large wild greenery bouquet and flowers in her hair. Her favourite girls looked so pretty by her side in different tone frocks and Hari looked incredibly dapper in his navy suit and tweed waistcoat combo. Oh the style. Also keep your eyes peeled for gorgeous décor and a stunning cake folks.
Hari proposed to Carmen while on holiday in Amalfi.
It was a beautiful evening, and while we were sat on our balcony enjoying a cup of tea (Hari had ensured we had fresh milk, as I had been whinging that the powered milk wasn’t nice) and watching the sunset Hari ask me to marry him with a card and a cute nervous smile. We then went out for dinner for some fab sea food and neither of us could stop smiling for the rest of the week.
We both wanted a wedding that was fun.
We wanted to bring Hari’s Sri Lanka background to my hometown (as I was really keen to get married near home in Lincolnshire).
I have always loved colour and I knew that I wanted proteas and thistles to be the main flowers, so the wedding vision was built up from that.
The Planning Process
We are very lucky to have lots of talented people in our family who were all keen to help. Therefore, we distributed tasks to a variety of family and friend, from the favours (homemade slow gin and onion chutney and Sri Lankan wedding cake), ribbon photo wall, table decorations and desserts.
To keep everything in check we had quite an elaborate excel table, which our friends found very funny, but Carmen likes to be organised.
Your Outfits & Accessories
Carmen: I loved my dress as soon as I saw it online (as with most brides I spent a fair amount of time browsing lots of websites and Pinterest). However, I did make sure I tried lots on (well, why not). I took my dad and Helen to help me pick my dress, which was good fun. When they saw the dress I don’t think they were convinced, but once it was on they both said they couldn’t imagine me in any other dress.
I got my dress from The Wedding Rooms. I loved the colour and simplicity of the style and it was so much fun to wear. The shoes were Irregular Choice, a brand I have loved for a long time. My jewellery included a pearl necklace Hari gave me for my 30th and a ruby bracelet he gave me on the day.
I am planning to have my dress converted into a tea dress, so that I can wear it in the future, waste not want not after all.
Hari: Hari wore a blue TM Lewin suit with a tweed waistcoat, a coral tie and multi pink pocket square. The flower pin Hari and the groomsmen wore we made ourselves from thistle, wax flower and rosemary.
Hair by MISHISHI hair & beauty.
Make up by Cristina Lazzarotto.
Carmen went for a loose, low back updo with a front plait. She added beautiful dried flowers from Lotus Floral Art to complete the look. Carmen’s make up was natural with bright plum lips.
The bridesmaid’s choose their own hair styles and wore ‘natural make up’.
Carmen had five bridesmaids and a bridesman, her sister, cousin, sister in law, two best friends and her brother.
The bridesmaid’s dresses were from RenzRags (Etsy). I had been nervous buying online, but when they arrived they were fab (the girls did have minor alternations as I had bought standard sizes).
The dresses were all different styles that the girls picked themselves. It was hard to choose the colours, as my dress had so many different colours, so in the end we went with a combination of blue, pink and purple.
The Readings & Music
We had two readings from some special friends and my sister gave a personal speech during the ceremony:
- Love Is Friendship Set On Fire by Laura Hendricks
- The Art of Marriage by Wilferd A. Peterson
For music we had the Night Sky, a great festival band. They did three different sets (acoustic, folk and rock/pop). They really suited our wedding and were such great musicians.
We had our good friend Chris Morgan DJ the evening, he did a fantastic job at getting everyone up on the dance floor.
Carmen is a big fan of organised fun, so her brother Tony and friend Jim organised a ‘Game Show’ for the after dinner entertainment. This included an egg and spoon race and running around the garden to find hidden objects.
Katie from Couture Cakes made our cake. The cake was a three tiered semi naked sponge with gold leaf, decorated with macaroons, roses, and thistle and wax flower. The three sponges were lemon, peach and Malibu and coconut, they were delicious.
Lucie Watson was our photographer and she was fantastic. We had a pre-shoot in Hackney on a rainy London day and the photos came out great. The wedding photos did not disappoint. Lucie’s style really suited our colourful, outdoor wedding.
Pollen Designs made our bouquets. We wanted the bouquets to include, protea, thistle, eucalyptus and roses. The brides bouquet was large and flowing, with lots of greens to sit in front of the colourful dress.
We did our own table decorations – a table runner, which included different types of eucalyptus, thistles and wax flowers. We also had vases of flowers around the venue, which included colourful roses, eucalyptus and thistle.
Hari had four groomsmen and a groomswoman.
The groomsmen wore their own blue suits and we provided them with coral ties, multi pink/red pocket squares from TM Lewin and purple socks from The London Sock Company. The Groomswoman wore a navy dress.
The Details & Décor
The food we had was a mixture of British and Sri Lankan. Our caterer, Salted Orange, did a great job. We had a good old Sunday roast for the wedding breakfast (Beef and Mutton), and Sri Lanka hoppers with junk yard fries in the evening. We also had candy floss and a huge dessert table, which our friends and family contributed to (cupcakes, scones, fruit loaf, brownies, lemon cake…).
With the wedding being outside we had to have outside games, this included a white bouncy castle, croquet, garden jenga, cricket and a ball pit for the kids.
The gin bar went down a treat… we spent a few weeks testing gins which was fun.
A Sri Lanka dance troop walked Hari down the aisle and Carmen and her dad walked down with David the Bagpiper.
Early next year, in Peru.
- The Sri Lankan dance troop walking Hari and his family into the ceremony
- Carmen kissing Hari multi times during the ceremony before the ‘you may now kiss the bride’
- Jumping on the bouncy castle with the bridesmaids and Hari
- The egg and spoon race as part of the ‘quiz show entertainment’
- Our first dance: You’ve got the love, which we had practised a short routine for
- The speeches, our friends and family did a great job at making us cry and laugh
- Seeing all our friends and family enjoying the garden, while sipping on a G&T
- Dancing the night away
Advice for Other Couples
Don’t worry about your dress once it is on, mine was covered in dirt before the ceremony as I insisted on running around the fields with my bridesmaids (I wouldn’t have done it any differently).
Let your groom choose his outfit, and it really doesn’t matter if it’s not what you wanted (it is his day too remember).
Decide what your top three priorities are and splash your budget on them. We picked food, drink and music (the venue was the first place we saw that would let us have the wedding we wanted – ‘do it yourself’). We did all the decorations ourselves, which was fun (but always takes longer than you expect).
Let friends and family help, but in doing so let them have a little free reign to be creative – it was lovely to see the little surprises they included (beautiful confetti cones, speeches, ribbon wall, cupcakes).
Weddings are about the bride and groom, but they are also about families and friends.
The day after the wedding we had friends and family over to my dad’s for a hog roast, this was a lovely way to end the wedding, and it gave us more time to catch up with friends and family.
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Lucie Watson Photography
Lotus Floral Art
The Wedding Room
Wow Carmen and Hari, what a stunning celebration you had. Thanks so very much for sharing your story with us xo Lou