What happens when a wedding photographer and paper artist and a musician tie the knot? Let’s find out shall we? Yes it time for WWW readers Holly and Neil’s nuptials held on the 22nd June 2017. You guys are really in for a treat today, think celestial wedding theme meets music filled celebrations. Their day was relaxed, heartfelt and personal through and through.
This creative pair really went to town to ensure their day packed in the personality. Holly used her crafty skills to make hundreds of origami stars, which decorated the barn and outdoor ceremony arbour, the result was just so striking. I think though the favourite part of their wedding report below has to be their love story, it’s just so romantic. Cornwall has a space in their hearts, as it’s where they have spent many a time camping, so it was a natural choice to book The Green Cornwall.
The focus of their celebrations were fun and love, making memories and having them perfectly captured too. Assassynation really captured the spirit of the day in these divine shots, thanks for sharing them with us Sassy. And I also have to touch on the super cool outfits, didn’t the whole wedding party look amazing! Love it.
THE PROPOSAL | We had gone camping to our favourite spot in Cornwall in May 2016, Treyarnon Bay. Neil’s family have been camping at this spot, as a family, every year for 40 years!! Neil and I have been best friends for 23 years and I have shared many a camping trip here with him and his family over those years (just as friends) so we have a lot of memories attached to it.
We had been together for a little over 5 months and I wasn’t expecting a proposal at all. We walked down to the beach with a bottle of wine, and sat, as we had on so many other times, talking, watching the sun dip between the rocks in the sea. I can’t really remember the actual moment, it was all rather overwhelming but we sat on the beach for hours as the stars came out and gave us a magical light show… no less than 5 shooting stars… The universe put on a good show for us that night!
Neil and I have been friends for 23 years, since college. Actual best friends, soul mates and confidents, but only got together 5 months before he proposed. I don’t know why it took us so long to get here but our journey together is certainly part of what makes us work so well. We know everything about each other, we’ve known all of each others previous girlfriends/boyfriends. We’ve laughed, we’ve cried, we’ve got drunk together, he’s held my children since they were born, and we’ve spent many holidays in Cornwall together … all as friends. And then all of a sudden you see it all differently, what if it’s us? And it was!
I have two children who are 14 and 15 and it was so important they were a big part of it. My son Kalo walked me down the aisle with my dad and my daughter Ava was bridesmaid and guardian of the rings!!
We also decided to choose our own surname. Me being a tiny bit of a feminist I wasn’t that comfortable taking on someone else’s name. The patriarchal system we live in doesn’t feel right so we took a family name from his Grandmother’s side that we both love, Treloar. Super Cornish too!
Neil changed his name by deed poll, a very easy process actually. So my name naturally changed to this once we were married. It feels good to start a new clan together and to both be getting used to having a new name.
THE VISION | A fun filled day of family, friends and love and music.
THE PLANNING PROCESS | We spent just over a year planning the wedding. We found the venue on Instagram and after we visited knew it was the one straight away. We worked as team the whole way though, sharing all the jobs to be done. We really enjoyed the planning.
BUDGET | £11,000
THE VENUE | The Green Cornwall. Although we live in Hampshire, Cornwall is our spiritual home and we knew we wanted to get married there.
THE DRESS & ACCESSORIES | Dress: Hope by Phase Eight £595.
Hair clip by La Belle Epogue Antique on Etsy.
FINDING THE DRESS | I found it on the internet and very unceremoniously tried it on at home on my own and went for it. I had sleeves added afterwards. I did not want to spend too much on my dress. As a wedding photographer I’ve seen 100’s and would have LOVED a Jenny Packham (they seriously nearly make me weep with their beauty) but it just seems crazy to me for one day to spend so much …. Nearly £600 still seems bonkers for one dress but I did love it and felt really comfortable all day.
I also wore silver boots from Dune. I hate heels, SOOOOO uncomfortable, so wanted a boot I could wear again, plus I felt much more secure on the day and not sinking into the grass all day!!
GROOM’S ATTIRE | Custom made suit London Burgundy suit form Moss Bros £300. Tie from ASOS.
THE READINGS & MUSIC | My mum read a piece from Winnie the Pooh and Auntie Liz read an original poem written by a friend about cheese (The Green was originally a cheese farm and produced Cornish Yarg and Neil and I LOVE all the cheese so this seemed apt).
SO MUCH MUSIC !! Neil’s a musician and also works as a manager in the music industry so this was a very important part of our day.
Neil wouldn’t tell me what I was walking down the aisle too, which was quite nerve wracking but I trusted him entirely to make the perfect choice. HE DID… as I walked down two friends were playing Mumford and Sons ‘Awake my soul’ on acoustic guitars, as I got to the front I could hear all these other voices joining in from all around me!! We have a lot of talented singers in our friendship group and Neil had arranged the song, they had all learned it and all their beautiful voices came in from both sides… It was a very emotional and magical moment !
We had lots of music all throughout the day performed by our very talented friends and Neil also sung in the evening.
We were lucky enough to have Mark Hill from The Artful Dodger (REE-E-WIND, when the crowd say BO!!!!) come to DJ for us in the evening. He’s a friend of Neil’s and properly got the party going 90’s styleee!!
We finished the night with my super amazing husband playing and having a big old jam and sing along with everyone, it was absolutely EPIC….
BEAUTIFUL BRIDESMAIDS | I had eight bridesmaids. Six of my best girls (which seemed excessive, but you don’t get to nearly 40 without making some solid friends ) and also my daughter Ava and one my best friends daughter’s Alice.
The grown up girls wore navy blue dresses from AX Paris. I ordered them in the black Friday sales so got all six dresses for under £45 each … WINNER!! They all wore their own choice of shoes.
Ava and Alice wore burgundy skater skirts made by my mum and white tops from New Look with white Rebok Classic trainers. They immediately changed into jeans after the ceremony, it was all very relaxed!!
THE FLOWERS | I made tiny origami stars for the boys button holes and Judith made the button holes around these with tiny succulents, they were gorgeous. My flowers were beautiful and just what I wanted, succulents and eucalyptus. They smelled wonderful too!
WEDDING RINGS | Our wedding rings were simple silver bands made by a friend Jo, who’s a talented jewellery maker. These we’re A LOT cheaper than some of the ‘wedding’ rings available on the general market. Neither of us wear gold so this seemed like a very natural choice. We had them both engraved on the inside with the words “Holding True” which come from a song Neil wrote (about us) 9 years ago, 7 years before we got together.
THE CAKE | We had a cheese cake from the wonderful Ed from The Cheesestall in Winchester. Delicious and we took all the left overs away on our camping trip after the wedding.
YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER | As a wedding photographer I am very lucky to know A LOT of wonderful photographers so I had good inside knowledge on this one!!
The legendary Sassy, who I am lucky enough to call a friend and also an inspiration to my photography work. She was always who I wanted to shoot our wedding, and she didn’t disappoint! It was wonderful to have her share the day with us. To understand and capture all the emotions. She absolutely smashed it and we couldn’t be happier with our images
THE DETAILS & DÉCOR | STARS AND PLANTS AND PAPER AND HOME. Whilst Neil was the sound and audio expert for our day my skill set is visual!!
I have been to a lot of weddings, obviously as a wedding photographer myself, and seen all sorts of décor. I was determined to keep it personal, simple and low cost. It was very time heavy, but I wanted it to speak of us and this is the stuff I LOVE doing. As well as a photographer, I am a paper artist and I wanted to use my skills!
I had recently been gifted over 300 navigation maps from a friend so I (and my mum) made 100s of origami stars of different sizes to hang from the barn. Mum also made a beautiful folded moon, which we had over our table. I also created some paper cuttings that represented mine and Neil’s journey and songs he’d written that were displayed.
For the table décor I wanted to keep it simple, and low, nothing worse than going to a wedding and you can’t see the people across the table for massive vases or candles!! Myself and my mum collected tin cans for about a year before, left them in the garden to rust. We decorated them with string, sprayed some and planted various plants in them. The house was FULL of plants in cans for about 9 months before the wedding.
We had simple glass candle holders with sand from the beach we got engaged on and each table also had just bits and bobs from our house. Old books, trinkets, old cameras, each table was different, and everything was something that is genuinely part of the fabric of our day to day.
I hand printed all the place names and made the table plan from a large map of Cornwall that was in the Navigation maps, with origami stars.
THE HONEYMOON | Straight after the wedding we went camping for five days with loads of us where we got engaged at Treyarnon Bay. It was my 40th birthday so we celebrated with campfires, big cook ups and sing alongs round the fire.
Our main honeymoon is to Thailand!! We waited six months to go as my summer was fully booked with weddings. It been wonderful to have this to look forward to!! We’re off in 10 days!!!! (January 2018)
MEMORABLE MOMENTS | SO SO MANY. My son and dad walking me down the aisle to the ‘pop up’ choir.
Making our vows, which we wrote ourselves.
Coming into the wedding breakfast to the BIGGEST and LONGEST cheer I’ve ever heard at a wedding, just amazing, a lot of love in that room !!
The beautiful and VERY emotional speeches.
Going out on the moor for photos.
All of it really, it truly was the most magical day from start to finish.
ADVICE FOR OTHER COUPLES | It’s very easy to get bogged down by all sorts of things, what you think your day should be, what you’ve seen other people do but make it your own, do whatever YOU want.
Make it personal not perfect.
I felt that I had a lot of ‘inside’ knowledge as a wedding photographer. I know how a wedding day runs, I know the hectic bits and the stress points so we planned our day to avoid any stress and it worked like a dream
A good spread sheet, it’s an admin heavy planning process.
We worked as a team the whole way through and were both as invested in the whole process. We genuinely loved the whole planning. Wonderlist was a godsend and makes a very satisfying ‘PING’ sound when you’ve completed a job!
BE IN THE MOMENT.
All the planning and thinking and imagining, when the day comes, be in it and be present and flow with it. It really does go so fast and you’ve worked so hard so ENJOY IT! Oh and make sure you’ve got an EPIC photographer to capture it all !
CREDIT WHERE CREDIT IS DUE |
Photographer | Assassynation
Venue | The Green Cornwall
Hair | Jon
Dress | Phase Eight
Wedding rings | Jo Vane
Hair clip | La Belle Epogue Antique
Flowers | Judith Searles
Cheese Cake | The Cheese Stall
Decor | Holly Bobbins
How very romantic.
Holly and Neil, thanks so much to you both for sharing your gorgeous story with us xo Lou