There is just so much to love about today’s real wedding lovely readers; from the beautiful setting to the relaxed vibes and the fun moments all round. So do take a seat, relax and take in this gorgeous story and the accompanying images.
WWW readers Adam and Becky were hitched on the 16th September 2017 in a humanist ceremony at home. Yes at home. I think that if suited, tying the knot at home sounds utterly perfect. Their countryside cottage situated in Devon was the perfect spot for this pair and their tipi reception, which was held in the field opposite. Their day also had a really wonderful homemade feeling about it with many of their nearest and dearest contributing to their day. It’s always a really great way of including everyone into your celebrations.
I am head over heels for the greenery hoop backdrop, Becky’s beaded gown, the cosy tipi interior and the thoughtful touches throughout. Such a gorgeous pair and their day looked so spectacular.
Huge thanks goes to Freckle Photography for allowing us to share these remarkable images. What a delight.
We went to secondary school together, but it took until we were 21 to get together. Having been together 10 years now Adam has worked abroad the whole time so we have spent at times between 3-7 months apart. After years of dreaming of a life in Devon and working hard to find our dream home, Adam proposed after a long walk on the beach with our dog on the front step of our cottage, overlooking the valley we now call home. With a cup of tea in one hand he said ‘this would be a great spot for a wedding’ I replied ‘ yes it would’ (deep down thinking, if you would ever blooming ask!!!) And then he pulled a ring from his pocket and said, ‘well do you want to’ – the rest of the day was pure joy, calling all our friends and family.
We were in two minds in the planning process as to whether to just do a small family wedding or to go for the full big day. After a little more thought we decided we really wanted to have a big party to celebrate or marriage but mainly to thank our friends and family for their support of our relationship over the past 10 years. The vision was clear from the start. It had to be relaxed, home grown and not fussy. We had always dreamt of getting married at our own home and at last that dream was going to become reality. We both love festivals so knew it would be that sort of vibe we would want to create.
THE PLANNING PROCESS
Adam was away a lot so we sent a spreadsheet back and forward via email. He was amazing and actually did heaps of the planning. Having seen Fego at a festival Becky knew we had to have them cater for the wedding and Adam trusted her completely with this and didn’t even taste the food. When it came to photography we actually emailed Emma from Freckle Photography at the same time and had to explain to her we were the same couple!
Becky had seen the band at a friend’s Event Venue and Becky’s brother is a DJ so things fitted into place quickly. We planned the whole thing in 6 months.
We asked our creative friends and family to help out with whatever skills they had, Adam’s brother Matt hand sign wrote all the blackboards and designed the wedding invitations, our dear friend in New Zealand designed the seed packet stamp with her Little Card Factory Business, my mum collected and counted all the china and knives and forks, our fabulous friends at Spinney Hollow came along to set up their amazing handmade structures for the bar and kids tent, the list goes on and we can’t thank them all enough.
Desperate to not over spend on anything, we made what we could, borrowed what we could and made sensible decisions. Do we really need this? Will people notice if we just don’t have this? We didn’t add any extra frills that were not essential.
We had a humanist wedding in our own garden under the apple tree where we had handmade a willow hoop, which our friends had dressed with foliage and flowers from the garden, we all walked down the lane into our neighbour’s field in front of our house for the reception. The field was dressed with lights, lanterns and the most magical tipi. Adam rigged Nautical Code Flag to decorate the tipi as well, which was a lovely touch as it gave us colour but also actually meant something to us. Neighbours lent us animal feeding troughs, which we laid on the floor filled with ice for the Champagne, which Adam’s boss very kindly gifted us as our wedding present.
THE DRESS & ACCESSORIES
The dress was Eliza Jane Howell, the heels did not last long Becky got straight into Silver Superga trainers to go into the field, the headdress was actually Becky’s late grandmothers necklace. We actually found the matching bracelet matched the few missing bits on the dress so we used those to fill any gaps. Millie who was the seamstress Browns of Totnes recommended did a fantastic job taking the dress up, it took her hours!
FINDING THE DRESS
I only went to three shops and with a vision in my head of floaty bohemian style every single one I tried on just didn’t suit me and I had an over whelming feeling of guilt with my parents buying a dress costing so much money when we could actually but that money towards more wine or something for everyone to enjoy rather then a dress I would wear once for a day. So I found the dress at Browns of Totnes. As soon as I put it on it just felt like me, I could move, dance like a fool and be comfortable. I knew it just felt like I could wear it all day without any stress.
Funny story, he got his suit in the Hugo Boss Sale when he was in America for work… only downside, they didn’t remove the security tags!!! The trousers we found out about when we walk into a shop whilst needing them taken up but neither of us checked the jacket!!! One photo you can see it quite clearly. He was so relaxed about the whole thing, I was actually so surprised he even wore a suit.
THE READINGS & MUSIC
Whilst everyone entered the garden to take their seats we played Nick Mulvey ‘Meet me there’ and as the bridesmaids and myself walked down the garden to the apple tree we played Van Morrison ‘Into the Mystic’. We asked two great friends to do readings of their choice at our ceremony in the garden and they both chose to write their own, they were incredible, we couldn’t have asked for a more perfect touch. Both were about us as a couple and watching us grow. They were so powerful, thank you Luke and Kate.
With our two sister in laws to be bridesmaids, Adam’s sister Meg and my brother’s wife Sarah. Sarah found the dress style from Virgos Lounge online, which suited the wedding dress perfectly and when we searched eBay we found them half the price. Our little flower girl was our beautiful niece from Australia Marlowe, so with her not here until a week before the wedding Adam’s brother and sister in law arranged her beautiful outfit.
We were dead set on making the wedding seasonal so we asked a friend who grows cut flowers if she would help. She was amazing and grew all the flowers and foraged absolutely everything in the tipi and on the tables. With a love of white roses and eucalyptus as well though the mother of the bride went to a wholesaler to buy these flowers and she and friend from New Zealand who flew over 11 weeks pregnant hand made the button holes and bouquets.
For the months leading to the wedding Becky dried the flowers from our garden to make all the confetti.
Mother of the Bride Jan was desperate to make the cake. We said we didn’t want fruit cake right at the start of the planning and had ordered the fantastic cheese tower style with Fego as we are big cheese lovers, but mummy knows best – and to be fair it was great cake 😊 so we had both!
The absolutely wonderful Emma Latham from Freckle Photography, she was a dream. From our engagement shoot to the end of the wedding night when we said goodbye she put us at ease, made us laugh and kept the father of the bride calm. We honestly felt like we had known her forever and looking back at the pictures we couldn’t imagine the day without her.
THE DETAILS & DÉCOR
The vision was all our own, homemade and rustic but not too ‘village fete’. Becky and her mum have a love of collecting vintage china and Becky’s Dad is well known for always having something you need in his shed, ladders for displaying flowers, 20 odd brass candle sticks, not to mention all the pot plants he let us borrow and succulents he grew for the table settings. We just went with what we like, not really any theme or colour, just what we had or could get hold of. Becky set the tables with Adam’s Mum and sister in law Bec, all three with a serious eye for detail. We had black and white framed photos of our parents and grandparents on their wedding at the entrance of to tipi.
Adam spends most of his time away so being at home was a bit of a honeymoon for him, however we did spend two beautiful nights in our friend’s Air BnB bus after the wedding as we hadn’t decided on what we wanted to do. Ella and Tom kindly gifted us this special time.
We have since decided to put the money we would have spent on a honeymoon in to a 1987 German Mercadez Ambulance to do up as a camper van, as you do!
So we won’t just have one honeymoon now but lots of fun adventures.
The Father of the Bride was a DJ in his 20’s and had a disco set called ‘Pig Disco’ the family have always loved looking at his photos and set lists. As a surprise Jamie Becky’s eldest brother had his logo re printed on t shirts for the guests and the father of the bride came out in 70’s disco fancy dress, to the Austin Powers theme music, but the big band version. It was absolutely hilarious; the guests went crazy and the dancing did not stop all night. We were also gifted the most wonderful quilt, which was made by Jan, mother of the bride, with handmade patches from friends and family.
ADVICE FOR OTHER COUPLES
Don’t get to swept up in social media images and magazines, what you think you need or what others will think of your day. Don’t lose sight of why you are really getting married. Stay true to yourselves, your style and keep it real. The best bit of advice we were given by friends, that we now pass to all our friends getting married is on the big day, take a step back, have a drink together and watch your friends and family enjoying the day. It is the most magical feeling to have all of your closest friends and family in one place all celebrating your love and commitment to one another, you can’t buy that, you have to make it.
Credit Where Credit Is Due
World Inspired Tents
Browns of Totnes
Adam and Becky, thanks ever so much for sharing your special wedding story here at WWW xo Lou