We are welcoming Gary and Cheryl today with their perfectly rustic Dalduff Farm wedding in Scotland. They tied the knot on the 20th July 2019 in the beautiful barns with a rustic wooden backdrop featuring a really striking mirror and greenery arch. Wow! They then decorated the reception space with long wooden tables adorned with green candles and brown paper stationery. The barns were draped in fairy lights, bunting and rustic décor. It really did look very magical.
Scottish and Irish influences can be found in their music, readings, décor, flower arrangements and attire choices which reflect their nationalities, isn’t that just lovely? They also got stuck into DIY projects such as the signs, but added décor from their home too, which is always a great idea.
Their romantic and relaxed day was captured wonderfully by Northern Aye Photography, thanks ever so much for sharing these images with us guys!
Gary proposed in our living room under our Christmas tree on the 23rd of December 2016, 5 years since the day we first met. We were opening our Christmas presents early as Gary was heading back to Ireland to see his family on the 24th. When we had opened all our presents, Gary said there was one he had forgotten. He brought a box in from the other room. It was an old VHS video box of The Little Mermaid which was my favourite film as a kid. The ring was inside the video box. He went to Ireland the next day and I was left in Scotland with a huge secret as we decided not to tell our friends until Gary had told his Mum!
We wanted a relatively small, relaxed ceremony and reception. We also knew that we wanted a humanist to conduct our wedding ceremony. We had been to a few humanist weddings together and found them to be personal and special. We also knew we wanted lots of different types of food and drink and really liked the idea of family style sharing platters and help yourself drinks. I’m quite crafty and love vintage style decor, so I was really keen to make lots of decorations to make our venue look a bit different. We also wanted to acknowledge our different nationalities so wanted to include lots of nods to Scotland and Ireland in our music, readings, decorations, flowers and clothing.
The Planning Process
We spent 2 ½ years planning our wedding. I was due to start a one year university course a few months after we got engaged so we booked the majority of our big vendors in January 2017 and did the rest later. The biggest early booking was our venue which had a 2 year wait for a Saturday in July! After the first rush of activity in the early months we didn’t really think about the wedding again properly until we had about a year to go. We chipped away at DIY decorations from the outset and picked up bits and pieces as we went. Like most brides, I was Pinterest mad – although it can be both helpful and distracting in equal measures.
We agreed an amount that we were happy to spend to have the day we wanted. We also wrote a list of priorities each. We spent money on the things we both listed as a priority and agreed we would be happy to cut any of the other ‘wants’ if we couldn’t afford them. We were good at sticking to our budget and shopped around to get everything we wanted.
Dalduff Farm in Maybole, Ayrshire (Scotland). It’s a beautiful converted barn in the countryside. Venue hire includes sharing style banquet food, exclusive venue and furniture hire and accommodation for up to 10 people for 2 nights.
Our make-up artist was Suzanne Christie MUA. She also did our hair. She was amazing! Her website is fab and she is so easy to chat to and communicate with.
The Details & Décor
We hired storm lanterns, brass candle sticks, a window frame (table plan), apple crates and other vintage décor from Just Vintage Hire in Dundee. Elaine was great and her prices were really reasonable. I also made some of our décor like our menu, welcome signs and a welcome pallet using chalkboard paint and pens. I also bought a bag of fake foliage on a buy and sell bride page and we used this to supplement out floral arrangements in spaces that weren’t main focal points. We had green dinner candles on our tables (Tiger Copenhagen) and lots of brass trinkets from charity shops on window sills and ledges. We also brought lots of décor from our flat like British Bullfinch lamps that we bought from a salvage sale and some brass framed mirrors from our living room. I had my Gran’s china on display and family photos dotted around the barn. I also bought a flat pack Irish post box online and assembled and painted this for our cards and gifts.
Our cake was a disaster! Would not recommend the vendor. They were a small, local bakery who make lovely small cakes. In hindsight the job was maybe too big for them and although our cake tasted nice, it wasn’t what we asked for. It was covered in silver glitter and it fell apart before we left Glasgow. We returned the cake to the bakery and they fixed it and delivered it before the ceremony the next day. In the end I had to step back and tell myself that if a mushy cake was the only thing I had to worry about on my wedding day then I should count myself really lucky and not let it upset me.
Your Outfits & Accessories
I wore an ivory lace, vintage inspired dress by Lusan Mandongus @ Melle Cloche Bridal in Glasgow. The dress was backless and had a small crystal belt and lace capped sleeves. My veil was by Joyce Jackson (also from Melle Cloche Bridal). My shoes were by Rainbow Club at John Lewis. Gary wore a kilt in Isle of Skye tartan from Slanj Kilts in Glasgow. Gary’s buttonhole was a mixture of Scottish blue thistles and Irish shamrocks. Our hand fasting ribbons were from a company called A Wee Favour on Facebook. Hand fasting is a Scottish tradition where a couple’s hands are bound in ribbon during the wedding ceremony. We ordered an ivory ribbon to represent my dress and an Isle of Skye tartan ribbon to represent Gary’s kilt.
The Readings & Music
Our humanist provided lots of resources to help us choose readings. In the end we went for:
A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton
On Hands – Author Unknown
An Irish Blessing – Author Unknown
We also created our own vows and ceremony using the materials from Humanist Society Scotland (HSS).
We hired musicians (Sedona Park) for our ceremony and drinks reception. I walked down the aisle to One Day Like This by Elbow, we signed the register to Kiss The Girl from The Little Mermaid as a nod to our engagement and we exited to God Only Knows by The Beach Boys.
Our original photographer was on mat leave by the time our wedding came around so we chose to book another. We were in a panic and had to find a new photographer at short notice. We found our photographer Doug @ Northern Aye using Google search. He was amazing. Such a lovely guy and very easy to chat to from the outset. He understood what we were looking for and was a pleasure to have around on our wedding day. We had been to lots of weddings where the bride and groom disappeared for hours for photos and Doug knew we didn’t want this. He got some beautiful shots of our day and we didn’t spend ages away from our guests. He edited our images and got them back to us really quickly. We love our photos and would recommend Doug to anyone.
June Dunlop – The local florist in Maybole. We priced up lots of trendy florists in Glasgow. There are so many to choose from but many of them were way out of our price range. In the end simple was best – June was amazing. She does about 80% of the flowers for weddings at our venue so she knew what spaces to decorate and exact quantities required. She created all of our ridiculous Pinterest dreams and stayed within our budget. She advised also advised us to pare things back when we were starting to go OTT. It was really reassuring to find someone so honest, creative and reasonable in the wedding industry. Our flowers were beautiful. My favourite thing was our bike wheels. We sprayed old wheels from Gary’s bikes gold and hung them behind our top table. June decorated them with gorgeous flowers to match my bouquet.
The girls went for emerald green dresses with gold shoes. Our bridesmaid’s dresses were from David’s Bridal. We tried a few shops but David’s had the biggest range of options in our price range. The dresses required alterations but we didn’t pay for these as our friend is a seamstress and altered the dresses as a wedding gift. David’s Bridal would have done the alterations at an additional cost. I wasn’t really precious about what the girls wore as long as they were comfortable. My only stipulation was that their dresses be a shade of green or purple to match the kilts. The bridesmaid’s shoes were from New Look. I ordered fresh flowers for their hair from our florist.
Isle of Skye tartan from Slanj Kilt Hire in Glasgow. We ordered kilt pins from Amazon. Even though Gary’s surname name is Irish there was a pin available in his family crest. Both he and his brother/best man wore these. We also ordered pins for our groomsmen too. Their Irish surnames were not available, but we bought them the pins of their wives family names as they are Scottish.
We used Brian Scott Weddings. Again, Brian was great to work with from the outset. He met us early in our planning process and took lots of notes about us and our day. He talked us through what he could do and asked us what we were looking for. He was another great person to have around on our wedding day. His cool crocodile shoes were a talking point for lots of our guests! Our wedding video and highlights clip are both beautiful.
Brian and Doug worked really well together despite never having met before.
We went to Amsterdam for a few days after the wedding which was lovely. We are currently saving to go to Vietnam in Summer 2020. We didn’t put pressure on ourselves to accomplish everything in one go and we’re glad that we still have something to look forward to.
Our ceremony and vows were really personal to us and were what people commented on most.
Dancing with our friends and family in the evening. We created a short playlist for our DJ (Hi – Life) with a few must play tracks and he built the rest of our night around that. We had some soul, Motown, 50s rock and roll, chart, dance music and some Scottish and Irish anthems. It was really nice to see all of our friends and family in the same room enjoying themselves. It’s something we never see as our immediate families live in different countries.
Our food and drinks at Dalduff were amazing. There was so much food!
The fire pit and marshmallow toasting was good fun.
Gary wore Irish undies under his kilt and flashed our photographer.
Advice For Other Couples
Have a mutual conversation about the type of day you both want and stick to your plan. While it’s nice to have advice and ideas from others you should do what is going to make you and your partner happy. Discuss a budget and stick to it. Prioritise the things you find important and remember that everything else is just extra – and extra sometimes equal stress! DIY is fun if you’re into it, but it’s really time consuming. Try to supplement your DIY with hired props and quirky bits and pieces to save your sanity. Tie your DIY together with one theme or colour scheme. Ours evolved to be glass and brass. It’s less stress and ties your look together in a large space. If you are decorating a venue the night before your wedding, agree a reasonable finish time and stick to it so you can chill out and enjoy your evening.
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Northern Aye Photography
Venue & Food
The Barn at Dalduff Farm
The Hi Life
Mandy Evans Ewing
So much FUN! And didn’t Gary and Cheryl look just gorgeous in their stylish outfits too.
Gary and Cheryl, thank you ever so much for sharing your amazing wedding story with us xo Lou