I am continually bowled over by all the love stories from 2020. Couples who defied all odds to marry despite COVID-19 and all the uncertainty it brought with it. Jess and Frazer decided to push forward and have their COVID wedding during the restrictions placed on the UK on the 15th August 2020. The date was a perfect choice as it turned out to be so atmospheric with all of the mist, captured perfectly by Holly Bobbins.
Their day was effortlessly beautiful, in part thanks to the stunning Dorset coastal location and in part thanks to the most gorgeous flowers ever. Jess and Frazer both looked gorgeous in their chosen attire; think long lace sleeved gown and sage green tie, swoon! This is a love story and a very romantic day to really take inspiration from folks.
Frazer proposed to Jess on Christmas day 2018. He got down on one knee at his parents’ home in Kent with all the family watching. He proposed on the last present Jess opened! Jess was particularly impressed as he had proceeded by surprising her with her favourite rose and pistachio ice-cream which he had stayed up all night making.
Depends which wedding! Our original June 2020 data was supposed to be a laid back, country wedding with lots of natural flowers and boho décor. The original colour scheme was dusky pink, with lots of multi coloured meadow flowers. Above all we wanted it to be fun – we had originally hired a Ceilidh, hog roast company and Purbeck ice-cream retro van….Our wedding car was going to be a sailing dinghy, sailing away on the river from the church where we were going to get married!
For the micro-covid wedding we wanted it to be a similar, downsized version of the original!
The Planning Process
We spent around a year and a half planning the original wedding in June 2020, so having to cancel it was very hard for us, as we had been so excited about it!
When Covid-19 came to light we knew early on that our original wedding was likely to be cancelled. We started to think about our options and whether we should postpone, which we did.
However, we both knew even the postponed date was unlikely to go ahead, so instead of postponing again to 2021 or 2022, we knew deep down, for us the right thing to do was get married in 2020…this has always been the year we were going to be husband and wife!
We weren’t sure when we would be able to get married (as restrictions had not lifted at this point), however, we liaised with our local vicar and pencilled some dates in. We never thought we would have so many potential wedding dates! As such planning was quite hard – as without a confirmed date it is difficult to plan!
St Aldhelm’s chapel – wedding ceremony (Brides native Purbecks, Dorset).
Your Outfits & Accessories
Jess – sample sale dress and veil by a small designer boutique. Some of the additional alterations (including Chantilly lace trim) were made by the bride herself. Hair pins by Simsly bought on Amazon. Shoes from Dune (Brides own).
The bride did her own makeup.
Hair was styled by Jenni Worlsfold.
The Readings & Music
No hymns allowed due to Covid-19 restrictions.
Pachelbel’s Canon in D Major
- Sonnet 116: Let me not to the marriage of true minds by William Shakespeare
- Fidelity – by D.H Lawrence
- A love poem between two lovers (Song of Solomon, Chapter 2, verses 10-13; Chapter 8, verses 6&7)
Music for registration of marriage:
- I vow to thee my country
Departure of church:
Pride and Prejudice finale from BBC TV series
Sadly, we were unable to have bells as the chapel doesn’t have any (bride comes from a family of bell ringers), however, recording of Bells from Westminster Abbey for the Royal wedding was played.
Frazer – own suits, bought especially for the wedding from Suitsupply London, ties from the Tie Garden.
Best-man – own suits, bought especially for the wedding from Suitsupply London, ties from the Tie Garden.
Bridesmaid – dress Adrianna Papell by from John Lewis. Hair pins by Simsly bought on Amazon.
Holly Bobbins – we couldn’t recommend her highly enough. Holly made the whole day as stress free as possible, despite the rain and mist – her positive and cheerful manner really helped! I was convinced the photos would be ruined by the bad weather, but she is so skilled she made them look so atmospheric – we couldn’t have been happier with them!
Bridal and bridesmaid bouquet Catkin and Pussy Willow. The bride loves flowers so had given quite specific instructions – she was absolutely thrilled with the result! Ironically, there was even some love in a mist (Nigella flower) in the bouquet, which given the weather was very apt indeed!
All other flowers: Flowers bought from local farm – styled and arranged by the Bride, Mother-of-bride and Bridesmaid.
Water colour 2-tiered cake made by the bride!
Flavours – bottom tier vanilla sponge (and raspberry pieces) with rose butter cream filling, covered in rose buttercream. First tier – lemon sponge with lavender butter cream. All covered in edible petals.
The Details & Décor
All styled by the bride and groom from a mixture of Amazon, Etsy and pre-owned items!
Flowers in chapel arranged by bride (BM and MoB too). Some smaller flower arrangements and candles provided by chapel.
Originally a safari in South Africa! This will be postponed for a little while…
Instead we spent a week in the wilds of…Cornwall – slightly different but a lovely honeymoon all the same… despite having a tail end of a hurricane from the Caribbean! None of the big five but we did see hermit crabs, seals and dolphins!
- The bride hiking out 1.5 miles across country track to the chapel in misty rain!
- The grooms party seeing the bride suddenly appear out of the mist (visibility was very limited!).
- The ceremony was so special, with the whole of the chapel lit with candles (there is no electricity as the chapel is very old – built in the 12th Century). With just close family present it was intimate and very special indeed despite social distancing regulations.
- Leaving the chapel, as husband and wife, to the Pride and Prejudice BBC finale – finally as a married couple.
- Having photos at Kimmeridge beach – a place which the Bride fondly remembers as a child… even getting to have an impromptu paddle in the sea in full wedding dress!
- Driving away in our bridal car – a mint green Nissan figaro with hood down (despite the rain!).
Advice For Other Couples
Given what has happened this year…. Expect the unexpected!
Covid-19 has certainly made our wedding more eventful than we had planned! Changing the wedding multiple times, has certainly not been fun!
However, the pandemic has really highlighted what is important to us, given global events and the suffering that is being faced daily, the big party seemed all the less important this year. Choosing an intimate wedding seemed the right option for us (hopefully with a larger blessing with friends and family at a future date), however we understand this is not the same for all couples… so our advice is do what is right for you as the couple! Although this is unprecedented times, we think this always applies. Your wedding should be what you want it to be whatever size it is and it doesn’t have to come at the price of a house deposit! Your wedding will always be a special and memorable day. Ultimately you are marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with!
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Oh so special, what a romantic and memorable day.
Jess and Frazer I hope you get to celebrate in full really soon, thank you so much for sharing your stunning day with us xo Lou