Kara and Stuart wanted a relaxed, fun and personal wedding, which is exactly what they got from their day at the Crab & Lobster in North Yorkshire on the 5th August 2018. It really is a unique venue that’s attractive in its own right with lots of quirky props and our couple didn’t want to overwhelm it too much with flowers or other decorations.
The décor that they did include was really personal and I think you’re going to love it. The welcome sign in particular really is a thing of beauty. I really like the contrast between all the colours of the venue and the simplicity of the flowers including Kara’s bouquet with neutral florals and greenery being order of the day.
Our pair chose the wonderful Hayley Baxter Photography as their photographer. I absolutely love the sunny portraits out and about in the grounds. Thank you very much Hayley for sharing these brilliant images with us today.
We went away for a weekend in Venice, I had bought Kara the flights as her birthday present four months before we went and had been planning to propose whilst we were there. On the first night, after an afternoon exploring the canals and alleyways of Venice, I proposed in the comfort of our hotel room. We ordered Prosecco to the room and celebrated into the night. Our friends and family were so excited when we broke the news to them all the next day and it was amazing to spend a few days together in such a beautiful, romantic location as fiancés.
A small, personal and unique wedding that reflected and suited our personalities and relationship.
The Planning Process
We did the majority of the planning ourselves. Kara had lots of ideas for themes, flowers and favours. As we were being married at the venue they helped with a lot of the planning and the structure of the day. We both like lists so made lists of what needed to be done and the deadline. Gradually, we made our way through the list by researching and getting advice/recommendations from friends. Our photographer used to work at the same place as Stuart and came highly recommended by a colleague, we saw some of her previous work on her website and had a chat with her and knew she was perfect for us.
Soon after we were engaged we went to view the Crab and Lobster to have a look around and both instantly fell in love with the venue. We were considering an abroad wedding so had a look at a few venues in Majorca but when we returned from that holiday we knew we had to go back to the Crab and Lobster and reserve a date. The venue is quite quirky like us and we both loved the eccentric décor and finishing touches they have there. The themed rooms were really fun to allocate to our family and friends and the room we stayed in is probably our favourite room we have ever slept in. The grounds are perfect for a wedding and having the ceremony and drinks at the manor house then reception at the restaurant is fantastic as gives the guests an opportunity to explore the grounds and broke up the day nicely. The food and drink were great and all our guests had a wonderful time at the Crab and Lobster. Heather and the venue’s staff were extremely helpful and accommodating and we can’t wait to go back to celebrate our anniversary!
Your Outfits & Accessories
Kara’s dress was from a boutique in Harrogate called Joana Bridal Boutique. The dress was a beaded modern lace fit with a dramatic train and sweetheart neckline. It was a light coffee colour with ivory lace other the top. The wedding shoes were from Andrea Bambridge in York. Kara wore Stuart’s Mum’s earrings and they matched the outfit perfectly.
Stuart’s shirt and suit were from TM Lewin, we wanted a relaxed day and I think the design and fit of the suit reflected this. My bow tie matched my Best Man (who wore the same suit) and both Dads (who wore matching Navy blue suits) ties and pocket squares.
Anna Stephenson did the make up and hair for both Kara and her mum. As it was so sunny that day Kara decided to go for a bright coral colour for lips (Hot Emily by Charlotte Tilbury). The bridal hair was curly and in a natural up do with wild gypsophila throughout the back. Anna did an amazing job, she is so talented.
We had our nieces as bridesmaids, Frankie (7) and Lottie (6). They were so excited to be our bridesmaids and looked beautiful on the day. Their dresses were from M&S and were customised with a sash featuring some of the colours from Stuart’s bow tie. To add to the occasion their little sister Henrietta was born the day after the wedding. Perfect timing!!!
The Readings & Music
We chose two modern readings, Bob Marley’s “He is not perfect” and “Wild Awake” by Hilary T Smith, we felt these alternative readings summed us up perfectly and our readers did a great job delivering them.
Kara walked down the aisle to “Wedding Song (Acoustic version)” by Yeah Yeah Yeah’s and we walked back down the aisle to “First day of my life” by Bright Eyes. We wanted music that we liked and that was modern and reflective of our tastes which both songs were.
We wanted to keep the flowers simple as the venue was very busy and quirky. Kate Mell in Boston Spa provided the flowers and she understood our theme and what we liked and disliked. She had worked at the venue before so advised us on what worked well and how many arrangements we would need which was great help. Kate’s team went to the venue on the day and set up all the flowers and delivered the bouquet and button holes to the venue which was great. The wedding bouquet was simple and perfect. Kate also made the bridesmaid’s flower crowns with gypsophila and they looked amazing.
We chose Hayley Baxter as our photographer who was recommended by a work colleague of Stuart’s. We viewed her website and spoke with her and knew that her style and personality would be perfect for our day. She was brilliant on the day and helped in so many ways as well as capturing the day wonderfully! Her relaxed manner is reflected in the photos she captured of us and our guests and we still can’t believe how well the photos came out. Our guests were equally impressed and we loved that Hayley edited some pictures on the day and had a slide show available for us and our guests to view at our evening reception. Hayley scoped out a location nearby for us to have photographs taken at sunset which look incredible, we honestly can’t recommend her highly enough!!
The Details & Décor
The only main piece of décor we had was the flower arrangements on the table which were quite simple as the venue was perfect as it was. We made our own table numbers using photo frames from a selection of charity shops, chunky wooden numbers sprayed with leaf gold from Hobbycraft and a map print inserted into the photo frame. We have since donated these to the wedding section at Oxfam in York. Another special touch was setting up a wedding guest book/photo table which had many different polaroid photos on of us, friends and family. On the table we featured a picture of both of our parents wedding days in old traditional frames. We also had a polaroid camera so that our guests could take a picture and stick it in our guest book and leave a message. We thought that this would be a fun way to capture the day. Keeping with this theme, we asked guests to send a photo (we also picked some funny ones ourselves) and had them made into polaroid pictures for the name cards for the tables. These were inserted into champagne corks and were a good talking point for guests.
We decided against having a traditional wedding cake and instead opted for a stack of cheeses as our cake which doubled up as some of our evening food. Love Cheese in York provided the cake and it was loved by our guests, we’re still enjoying the last bits of the cheese! One of the highlights for us in the lead up the planning stage of the wedding was going to the shop and tasting/selecting the cheeses with the team there and a nice glass of wine.
We spent our honeymoon in Thailand and visited Bangkok, Chiang Mai and Koh Samui. It was the perfect mix of exploring, adventures and total relaxation. We saw the hustle and bustle of Bangkok’s markets and temples, swam with elephants at a sanctuary in Chiang Mai and did yoga on the beach in Koh Samui, there were so many wonderful experiences on the honeymoon, it was a fortnight we will never forget.
I remember seeing Kara walking down the aisle looking beautiful and smiling away which is something I will never forget! There were so many other great moments that made it such a wonderful occasion!! We loved dancing the night away with our bridesmaids and friends and just feeling so much love from everyone there!
Also the weather was glorious for us and we feel so lucky for this. It meant our guests could sit outside all day and night and that the sunset was perfect for pictures.
Advice For Other Couples
Easy to say but try not stress about the small details and just do what you want to do as it’s your day. Everyone always says this but it really does go so fast so try to enjoy every minute. We took 20 minutes away from our guests in our hotel suite which was great to try and take the occasion in and catch our breath!!!
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Hayley Baxter Photography
Crab and Lobster
Hair and Make Up
Joana Bridal Boutique
What a special day, I am loving your unique venue! Thank you Kara and Stuart for sharing with us. Rachel x