Thanim and Bethan are joining us today to share their beautiful wedding story brimming with love and happiness. They held their wedding celebrations at the Asylum Chapel followed by a reception at Tanner Warehouse in London on the 24th August 2018. They envisioned a personal, fun and laid back day, which was also a celebration of the relationship they have with their family and friends. That sounds so very wonderful to me!
Their day is really upping the style stakes with Bethan donning a stunning floral lace Rime Arodaky gown, Thanim wearing a navy jacket, check waistcoat and cream trousers combo and their bridesmaids wore jump suits. So stylish and they all looked really gorgeous too. I also have to mention the glorious greenery flower arrangements and bouquets, the divine semi naked cake and the meaningful favours they chose for their guests.
Emma Gates Photography, I cannot thank you enough for sharing with us these sensational images, what an utter delight!
I proposed to Bethan at the Worship Street Whistling Shop in Shoreditch (Now closed L), which was where we had our first date. The venue had changed a lot since our first visit and I lucked out when I was able to book a private room there. The staff were brilliant and had champagne glasses at the ready after Bethan said “yes”. After the bar, we went to Sushisamba City for some food and once again the staff were brilliant in their efforts in making sure we enjoyed our night…so much so that they left their bar open for us until 4am.
To be personal to us; the music, the drinks, flowers, food, decor. We wanted guests to feel relaxed and to have fun! This was a celebration of how much our friends and family mean to us and how much their support, guidance and generosity has helped us get to where we are today.
The Planning Process
The planning was actually fairly easy and big thank you to Google! Sourcing venues, music, etc…I did during my lunch time at work and because the venues, suppliers were all in London, it was very easy to get around and visit them all on weekends.
We were also very fortunate as both venues assisted with providing catering, including the food, glass, cutlery and furniture. Our florist helped out by getting to the reception venue early and helping with the decorating and a lot of our family members were involved. So all in all everything was made easy as everyone helped out.
The ceremony was in Asylum Chapel run by Maverick Projects in Peckham, London. It is a beautiful space with stained glass windows concrete floors and pieces falling off the walls. Such a beautiful space! Real wow factor!
The reception was held at Tanner Warehouse in London Bridge where guests were conveyed there in 2 big red vintage London buses and we travelled in a vintage London Black Cab.
Bridal hair done by Ben…… in Selfridges.
Jump suits from Topshop
Maid of honour dress from Sissel Edelbo who upcycle beautiful fabrics to create sustainable fashion and unique pieces.
The groomsmen wore their own navy suits and white shirts but the ties were from Paul Smith, as an homage to Beth’s hometown of Nottingham, and the pocket squares also from Charles Thyrett.
The Readings & Music
Music was a huge part of the wedding for me. Walking down the aisle singing me in were Days are Done. A fantastic new folk band from Kingston, London. This was extra special as Adam, the guitarist, is my cousin.
It was important to us that the ceremony was personal and non-religious. My good friend Emma has known me a long time and been a huge support through the many ups and downs life brings. We have supported each other through many scary, exciting and hysterical times and her personalised speech with its rhymes and (some) embarrassing truths got many laughs and set the tone for a relaxed and joyous day.
One of my oldest friends from Bristol, Zak, did the other reading entitled “Love: A Human Experience”, written by himself. Zak drew inspiration from American journalist Ambrose Bierce, Albert Einstein, French writer Voltaire and Irish poet Oscar Wilde to put together a unique and moving speech which was a nice contrast to Emma’s earlier speech.
For the reception, we had a band followed by a DJ. The band, The Bloody Mary Brass Band, kicked off proceedings by playing our first dance song, “You are the Best Thing” by Ray Lamontagne and kept the party going for another 2 hours. Bethan’s friend Sophie then took on the baton and kept everyone dancing til 2am.
Your Outfits & Accessories
The Bride dress was from the Mews Bridal in Notting Hill. The designer was Rime Arodaky. Dress name Delilah. Accessories: skull stud earrings and skull bracelet from the Great Frog. Tika head piece from Bees in Upton Park. Shoes from Office.
The groom’s jacket, waistcoat and trousers were from Suits Supply, shirt, tie and pocket square from Charles Thyrett and shoes from Bass London & Co.
The lovely Emma Gates (@emmagatesphoto) was our photographer for the day and night. We came across Emma at a friend’s wedding a year earlier and was so impressed by what she did, that we had to have her. Many of our friends have since booked her as well!
Victoria Windsor: a beautiful florist in Pimlico.
I wanted lots of green, grey, blues and muted (wintery) colours, which was problematic in August but Victoria pulled it off and they were beautiful. I wanted the flower arrangements to look wild and untamed. As centre pieces they were in mis-matching glass bottles of different sizes.
I’m not perfect or neat and can be wild at times and I wanted the flowers to reflect this.
The Details & Décor
The most important part for me were the wedding favours. Red badges shaped like a heart with a business-type card explaining what they were for. Every badge meant that £1.50 was donated to Cardiomyopathy the heart muscle charity, whom I had ran the London Marathon for back in 2017. This was to remember my father who had died in 2009 of this disease. To see all the guests wearing them pinned to their posh dresses and suits really meant a lot.
Music is such a huge part of our loves and we frequently go to gigs. The centre pieces and table labels were vinyl records of some of the bands that we have seen together over the last 6 years. There were many to choose from!
The simple mis-matched tables and chairs were just what we wanted for a laid back London wedding.
The cake was provided by Dunn’s Bakery in Crouch End and was a wedding present from Bethan’s sister and her husband.
We spent our honeymoon at the Ambassador Suites in Santorini. Our Suite was amazing with a private infinity pool and jacuzzi on the balcony and was just what we needed for some post wedding relaxing. The Island itself was beautiful and we met some great locals out there who all spoilt in the various restaurants and bars we went to.
As the bride I insisted on doing a speech as it was my wedding too and I didn’t want the day to be dominated my male voices (however wonderful they are). I loved doing this. It was my chance to tell everyone how great my husband is and why I chose to marry him! I also wanted to thank my friends who mean the world to me! My urban family!
I played my dad’s electric guitar with the brass band. It felt like a little part of him was there and that instrument means so much to me as my dad loved playing it.
Advice For Other Couples
Take your time, stick to what you want and share the load and responsibility as much as possible.
I was writing my thesis whilst planning the wedding and Thanim organised a lot of it and I did what I could to fit this around my academic commitment.
Credit Where Credit Is Due
We had so much help from our wonderful family. My cousins band Days are Done (Adam and Emmy) singing the bridal party down the aisle. My Cousin Mark for providing the DJ decks, PA system and speakers. Cousin Alex for doing all the bridesmaids and the mother of the brides make-up. My Sister Rhian and the other bridesmaids for organising a hen do I would actually enjoy (Loved it!) and for having my back on my wedding day and everyday previously and since! Special thanks to Keira and Matthew who were our MC’s, PA, co-ordinator and everything in-between. They ensured that the day ran smoothly and that we were all fed, watered and happy. Thank you to our wonderful friends and family.
From my side, I want to give a big thank you to my groomsmen and best men for helping out during the day and ushering people around and especially for organising both my stag do’s. The speeches from the both best men were on point and thankfully weren’t too degrading!
Emma Gates Photography
Mews Bridal Notting Hill
Weddinng Dress Designer
The Great Frog
Groom’s Accessories & Groomsmen Pocket Squares
G.H. Bass & Co.
Bridesmaids Jump Suits
Maid of Honour Dress
Cardiomyopathy the Heart Muscle Charity (Badges)
Oh so wonderful.
Thanim and Bethan, thank you both so very much for sharing your amazing wedding with us xo Lou