It’s Laura!! Yay! And this week she is getting a little serious.. we’d love to hear your thoughts on dieting as a bride or groom :-) XOXO Lou
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Before I start, I’d like to congratulate my fellow Real Bride Adeline. She only went and got married last weekend! I’ve seen one of the official photos and she looked absolutely beautiful and so happy. Huge congratulations, lovely lady!
This post is going to be a bit more serious than my usual flippant offerings as I need to talk about the dreaded W word. Weight.
I bought a second wedding dress this week. An emergency-back-up-what-if-I’m-too-fat-to-fit-in-dress-number-1-dress.
If you’ve been following my planning journey you’ll remember that I bought a dress by a well known designer, 2nd hand on ebay. It was a fraction of the cost I would have paid for it if it had been new and I was really happy with it. Aside from the teeny, tiny fact that it’s a size too small…
I have weight issues. I have never maintained my weight at a set level for any significant period of time. I am always either losing weight or gaining it.
My relationship with food is terrible. I use it as a crutch when I’m sad/angry/stressed and I use it as a reward when I’m happy.
I’m actually quite good at dieting when I put my mind to it and I have, in the past, lost upwards of 3 stone by following slimming world and the like.
In November, when I bought dress number 1, I was a size 14. My efforts to get into dress number 1 started in January and since then I have gained 5lb. Suffice to say it’s not going well.
Being at weddings most weekends working hasn’t helped matters. People keep giving me cake and I don’t seem to be able to say no. Sigh. And what I realised a couple of weeks ago is that the fast approaching date of my wedding and the fact that I’m no closer to being able to fit in dress number 1 is a significant source of stress.
So I had a little look on http://www.bride2bride.co.uk/ to see how much a second, back up dress would cost me and I found an amazing dress for £200.
It’s £200 that I didn’t budget for and that I can’t really afford but it’s £200 that has taken a massive source of stress away instantly and the dress is so very amazing and very ‘me’ – so much so that I think it might be The One.
So now I have two dresses. One too small and one that’s just about right. I’m not sure which one I want to wear most…
I started the Dukan diet last week. It’s pretty extreme and you eat nothing but protein for the first three days and then after that you’re allowed vegetables every other day. Joyous, huh?
Moderation wasn’t working for me and I now need to be strict for long enough to lose around a 1.5 stones so that dress number 1 fits me and so that I am happy with the way I look on my wedding day.
It’s day 4 as I write this and I’ve lost 3.5lb so far so. I’m gasping for a glass of wine though…
It’s funny, I spoke to the owner of a bridal shop a while ago and she told me that I shouldn’t worry about losing weight as Pete is marrying me because he loves me.
Great advice but I’m not doing it for him. I’m doing it because I want to look back at my wedding photos and not criticise the way I look.
In a lot of ways I think it’s sad that us girls put ourselves under so much pressure to look a certain way. The media continually shoves a very specific, defined image of what beauty is and what it should be down our throats and I hate myself a bit for caring but I do care and I want to feel beautiful on my wedding day. For me that means being a bit thinner.
So who knows whether it’ll be dress 1 or dress 2 on the day (exciting huh?) or whether I’ll go slowly mad from the boredom of the restrictive diet I’m on.
Are you dieting for your wedding day? Maybe you’re trying to put weight on? I’d love to hear that there are others in the same boat.
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